In addition, the relationship with the brothers undergoes an irreversible damage post this confrontation. But if we have to look at the quantum of what the daughters receive, it remains miserably smaller, even in highly educated and progressive families. The second occasion is when the sons formally receive their share - the daughters too are given a small consolation share at this point. The first occasion is during her wedding - in the form of dowry. What the daughters receive from the family wealth primarily takes place during two occasions. But in reality, most daughters receive only a small share compared to the sons. Only when it falls far away from that level, it causes conflicts between the two families. The quantum and the variety that makes up the dowry is a function of the caste and the class the families belong to.Įven among communities of similar position in the caste hierarchy, some are cited to be heavy dowry givers or takers, while some others are not. Even though the woman is celebrated under these three circumstances, she has very little control over any of these. Pregnancy is a biological process that is aggressively glorified and encouraged by the society to ensure the continuation of the institution of family. One, when she reaches puberty, two, when she is marrying a man within her caste and three, when she is pregnant. Our patriarchal caste society celebrates a woman only during three circumstances. There are of course people actively experimenting and finding alternate support systems, but they only form a minuscule minority. While we might have numerous arguments against marriage, we cannot ignore the fact that it continues to exist as a strong institution and is able to engulf young men and women inside it, irrespective of their educational status or economic freedom.Īlso, marriage and family continue to function as the primary support system for both men and women. Marriage as an institution is built on caste and patriarchy. While it is important to understand why these young women made the arguments they made in the first episode, it is equally important to understand the strong backlash that has surfaced on social media to it.īut before that, there are some key social realities, which we need to recognize and acknowledge. Several young men even went ahead and mocked the women who appeared in the show by making memes and videos filled with derogatory remarks. Parents, men, feminists and pretty much everyone were quite shocked to hear the arguments made by the young women in the show. Expectedly, the first episode created a lot of discussion and drama, not only in the television studio but outside it as well. The young women who appeared in the show demanded from their parents a house, a car, household appliances, gold jewellery and an extravagant wedding among other things. Name required.Marriage remains a transaction between two men, bride's father and the groom. Email required Address never made public. Like this: Like Loading Leave a Reply Cancel reply Enter your comment here Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment. Blogger View all posts by ramanan Skip to content. Learn how your comment data is processed. You are commenting using your Facebook account. You are commenting using your Twitter account. You are commenting using your Google account. The Social Activistsbetter look to their families first. Parents who have brought you up know what is good for you seek their guidance and be open with them.
Parents arrange marriages with the intention of making their children happy and at the same time ensure that the couple have the least point of known differences. If there is a misunderstanding between the couple, there is nobody to turn to diffuse the tension.īeing from two different environment- whether it would be easy to make adjustments for day-to-day Life. The spate of Divorces of late have reignited the resistance to Love marriages, when it was on the wane and Love marriages were not beginning not to be frowned upon.